Pride & Ego

Today’s blog was decided by my amazing instagram followers. I can honestly say it made me smile with the amount of responses I received. I was torn between Be Yourself and Pride and Ego, but you have voted and I am gonna go with it!

Pride and ego are two very different things which can be both good and bad traits/habits. It is all about the timing and how you behave in situations. Too much or too little of either can be a bad thing, it is about finding the right balance.

Everyone has a form of pride and ego but how you apply it in situations and circumstances can determine the response and later lead to consequences.

Lets be honest people who have pride and ego issues in the work place environment are the ones hated the most.

Those who have power positions (managers, supervisors etc) generally abuse that power and it goes to their head.

As a former business owner I can honestly say I was never like that. Yes I had an authority over my employees but it is a way of how you treat them that can determine their productivity and effectiveness to work.

I would request my staff to carry out tasks but in a polite and decent manner, please and thank you never goes a miss.

Sometimes I was too nice and they took advantage but I believe this is human nature and you always take what you can get. Especially during Ramadan timings I would make sure they were all fed and rested (even for those who are not fasting). There was no difference between my employees they were all treated exactly the same.

Yes there were some who I got along with more than others, due to age, lifestyle, common interests and understanding, but they never got special treatment.

I also had workers/staff/employees who were a lot older than me. I have been raised to always respect your elders regardless of their position or status.

I wanted to be that boss that was approachable and would take on board the new ideas.My staff felt comfortable talking about their cirumstances.

Some people would say that’s unprofessional but in order for me to have an effective and motivated work force I felt that you have to be relatable and understanding to the people you spend probably 60-80% of your day with.

The environment has to be happy, I mean who wants to go to work and count the minutes and seconds till they go home.. I definitely don’t and I dont expect my employees to either.

Happy work environment increases motivation and productivity sooooo much that we actually enjoyed our days at work and I was happy to see them each and everyday with smiles on their faces.

There are times when I did have to put them in their place and remind them that we are here to work but honestly 90% of the time I never had to ask them to do anything, they would actually want to do it and make the business succeed.

Having a title and position doesnt give you the authority and right to mistreat people who are in a lower position than you.. You aren’t better than them in any way.

Of course we respect higher positions in the work environment as they are more senior, experienced as they have worked hard to earn that title.

When it comes to pride and ego we all have a sense of it.

Pride because you and I deserve better than to be treated badly or walked all over.

Each and every person has a value and self worth, if someone doesnt respect that or understand it why would you keep tolerating their bad actions..

When it comes to ego, there is confidence and then there is arrogance.

Be confident in who you are and what you believe but never let it get to the point of you giving the impression that you are better than someone.

No one likes to be belittled and put down no matter how small or big it is.

Our ego gets hurt.

Theres a right way to criticize or discuss something without hurting someones feelings. We are all fragile (especially women) we have that sensitive and emotional side.

If you did something wrong to someone apologize, it’s okay it doesnt make you any less of a person in someone’s eyes. It actually makes you a bigger and better person who can admit their mistakes, put their pride and ego to the side and apologize.

No single person is perfect in this world and that is a guarantee, we all have our flaws. We can all make mistakes intentionally or unintentionally. But when you hurt someone or do something to someone and you don’t apologize you let your pride and ego get the better of you.

Thats totally wrong.

It’s not easy to admit we were wrong or we did something. Come on no one wants to look like a bad person. 9/10 people run away from their actions, they can do the action but they cannot handle the consequences that follow.

Think about your words and actions before you say or do it, it takes a moment of thought. Don’t say or do something then regret it later when it could have been avoided from the start. Don’t do something if you cannot handle the repercussions later on.

If someone is walking all over you by all means walk away, you deserve so much more than that. Why would you accept that?

No one has the right to disrespect you or treat you badly for the sake of their pride and ego. It doesnt make you stronger and better but actually it shows your insecurities and flaws in your personality.

We have to respect people no matter if they are the cleaner or a manager.

In my eyes you are all the same you are no greater than each other.

If you see people in your close circle or around you mistreating people because they have a lower position or status, you should educate them on their behavior. Explain to them in a calm and approachable way, maybe after the tension has calmed down and you are not so heated or angry that it isn’t right to treat people like that.

Don’t let your pride and ego get the better of you there’s a time to put it to the side and there’s a time to put your foot down, stand up for yourself in the right way.

By letting your pride and ego get the better of you, you will lose people from your life.

Apologize to someone if you have done wrong to them, even if the moment has passed or it was before, it is never too late.

My parents always instilled this value while I was growing up and from day one.

Treat people as you wish to be treated. Admit your mistakes and try your best to learn from it.

Leesh x