Girl Squad

Firstly I would like to thank everyone who read my introduction and I hope that you will continue to read my posts and enjoy them.

In this blog I’m going to introduce you to my girl squad and explain the importance of having good people around you.

In light of this whole situation of self isolation, I’ve been alone for almost 5 weeks now and the people I see are the delivery people! It seems kind of crazy but I haven’t felt alone for even 1 second thanks to the amazing girl squad and my family. So right now my family are in London and I’m in Dubai with my fur child.

During this time it is easy to feel alone and isolated with no support especially if you are a social person. I mean everyone loves staying home and having some chill time, but being forced to is a totally different scenario.

I personally have felt so motivated and encouraged during this time to reflect and I have had a lot of time to think about certain aspects of my life.

Whilst I’m currently not working and I’m having some me time I have enjoyed my cosy lie ins and breakfast in bed, I think that time has finally come to an end and I’m ready to get back to reality. Mainly thanks to my bestie for my wake up calls everyday and if I don’t wake up she just keeps on calling till I do! Now I’ve set and structured a routine for my day to day quarantine lifestyle which I will write about later.

Now back to the girl squad, who I miss very dearly, the laughter, the jokes, the banter and of course the memories.
One thing about me is that I have a very close circle of friends who are like the sisters I never had, in order to become part of the squad there is a series of challenges you must complete. Haha just joking, be nice, honest, loyal, respectful, funny and you will definitely get a membership.

During this time we haven’t been able to see each other but we have been calling everyday probably 10 times a day just to check up on each other and of course our virtual girl squad sessions (thanks zoom). I do love that we all call each other checking we are all still alive, we haven’t been outside the house, we are washing our hands and eating properly it’s the highlight of my day. We have all become domestic goddesses it seems, baking and cooking testing out new things so after the lockdown we can share our newly acquired skills in the kitchen. Sometimes it feels as though we haven’t even been apart, we just go back to our laughing and talking. In situations like this laughter is the best remedy, because if we don’t laugh we might just cry!

You are probably thinking… don’t you have a family… are your friends more important than your family… why are you writing about them first.

To answer your thoughts, yes I do have a family which I will be talking about later, no my friends aren’t more important as family comes first but we also get friends in life who are like family just not by blood.

When you are living away from your family, your friends become your family.

My mum is my best friend in the entire world (sorry M) and I’m truly blessed to call her my mum Alhamdulilah (thanks God).

You can probably relate to the thoughts that go through my mind… I want to tell my mum but.. I don’t want her to get hurt.. I don’t want her to worry.. I don’t want her to feel sad.. I don’t want her to stress out..
In these circumstances we end up turning to the people closest to us, our girl squad.

There’s 3 kinds of scenarios that can go down..

When I need truthful, harsh but realistic advice and outlook – I’ll go to M and I know it may hurt but its what I have to hear.

When I need a positive outlook with idealistic scenarios that will make me feel better and calm down when I’m angry or tense – I’ll go to S and she’ll help drown the negativity (thanks bro).

The final alternative is making your own decision without taking advice from anyone, the support of your girl squad is to give you a different opinion from another angle which you do not consider in the heat of the moment.

When I make my own decisions without consulting (which is needed sometimes) I feel that I don’t have that same level of motivation I do when my girl squad are cheering for me from the side lines. It’s that extra boost of care, love, attention and friendship that makes you feel special and you have people that genuinely care about you.

For me I believe that quality is worth more than quantity. I know many different people but it just depends if we click (you have to laugh at my jokes), mutual respect, understanding, sense of humor, mentality etc there are many different factors to take into account.

Friendship is something which is built on trust, if you don’t have trust, you don’t have anything. There are different levels of friendships based on how much you trust someone, close friends (girl squad), friends (sometimes you talk, sometimes you hang out but always keep in contact) and then there’s acquaintances (I define them as people you know and respect but they don’t know the finer in and out details of your life).
I have friends on all levels and some have moved categories and that’s based more on growing apart or life changes. Some of them are married and have kids, their interests would not be the same as a single girl living in Dubai, so you end up surrounding yourself with people who like to do the same things as you or a common interest etc.

Just remember that there are good and bad times in everyone’s life and we aren’t just there for the good times but to stand by them and pick them up in bad times. I’m not saying that you have to be the next Mother Theresa (been there done that, didn’t work out so well). You should help those that are important to you in your life and only you know the true meaning of “important”.

To finish off I’m just going to say thank you to my girls squad in my life you really supported me when I needed you and I’m blessed to have you part of my life. I cant wait to continue our making memories journey once its safe to socialize.

Keep smiling and stay safe

Leesh x