Let them go..

I hope you and your families had a good Eid and you’re all staying safe and well. This Eid was obviously very different and not the normal Eid as we know it. Safety first of course! Once corona has disappeared and it’s safe to socialize, you can make up for lost time.

So I haven’t updated my blog since my ‘Last 10 days of Ramadan’ post and I guess its given me some time to reflect on a lot of things.

Firstly, this was actually one of the quickest and best Ramadans! Not because it was quick but being at home gave me time to actually practice the true meaning of Ramadan. Yeah I missed hanging out with my squad and checking out all the Ramadan tents but praying and being more spiritual is more rewarding.

Secondly, I’ve tried to keep up with the good habits that I developed in Ramadan especially with regards to praying, reading Quran, dhikr (subhnallah, alhamdullilah etc) and I am going to make a conscious effort to make this part of my life routine.

Thirdly, I now whole heartedly believe in this quote “what is meant to be will be”.

You can take this topic from both an individual or a religious perspective. So I’m just going to go with something neutral and relatable.

You are blessed with people around you who love, care and adore you, both friends and family. People that do not value you or understand your worth as a person do not deserve to be part of your life.

For me personally there are certain characteristics which I cannot compromise on. Especially for those who are in my close circle: honesty, respect and understanding.

I give people benefit of the doubt from the start, with a reasonable amount of trust. From there it either goes up or down. As soon as I feel like there is some shady behavior, I become cautious until it reaches the point of no return and then I’m gonna have to let them go.

It is your right to protect yourself. I don’t listen to hearsay, there’s a lot of bitching and “she said this, he said that”. Until i see it for myself with my own eyes I don’t believe it, but I am cautious.

As hard as it is to let people go from your life, it is the right thing to do and you know that deep down!

Don’t ignore the signals and red flags, you will only get hurt in the end.

There are some circumstances that you should fight for someone to stay in your life but you have to realize when it’s time to let them go and walk away.

Time is so precious, make the most of it and give your time to those who deserve and respect it.

There are so many people who love to give false hopes and promises, their words mean nothing and they show zero actions. Believe them only when there is something to believe until that time, just be cautious or let them go.

This also applies to friendships. Negative people and negative energy is not needed. Friends who don’t support you or are “good timers”, let them go.

One thing I learnt over the years in Dubai and my biggest life lessons are:

1. Friendship is about quality and not quantity
2. Don’t just be friends with people for the sake of it
3. Always tell them when they are wrong. Don’t just let it go because they are your friend and you don’t want to hurt their feelings
4. It’s better to be alone, than be around bad company
5. Accepting that not everyone you meet will stay in your life
   

People who want to be part of my life will make an effort and will value me, they will always be around through good times and bad.

Trust me when I say, I know how hard it is to let them go but if they bring you sadness, hurt and pain, why would you want them to be part of your life? It’s so difficult but in time you will realize, understand and learn to accept it.

You lost nothing by letting them go.

Time is the best healer and it will become clearer in time, better things are waiting for you just be patient.

No matter how much you love someone, sometimes it just isn’t enough.

Your happiness is priceless.

Leesh x